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Thursday, June 28, 2007

Baby's Room & Belly


I put the final touches on the baby's room yesterday (minus a cool piece of art my sister will be adding soon), and dragged Matt in to see it last night. We both get such a kick out of the fact that, ya know, there'll be a kid in there soon.

The belly keeps growing.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Grueling Banjos

I started lessons last night at Arthur's Music in Fountain Square. My instructor taught a harmonica lesson before me and a violin lesson after me; he prefers teaching banjo, though, and has been teaching since 1970.

I learned three chords: G (easy); C (need to trim my fingernails) and D7 (need to grow longer fingers). I'd actually cut back my nails before I went, and Paul, my instructor, said, "Those are trimmed nails?" Damned music teacher.

Later, I practiced my chords at home while Matt reviewed a contract: opposites do attract. He kept looking up, giggling, saying, "Sounds good, honey...I love it."

Friday, June 22, 2007

Friday and Rainy

So, Jill, what have you done today?

Well, first thing, I interviewed for a very cool new writing adventure, then called my boyfriend (he helped set up the company, we found out after I got the interview), then ate a piece of someone's ice cream birthday cake, then downloaded a Tragically Hip ringtone to my phone.

So, overall, a productive morning?

Um, I don't have to answer that.

Matt returned from Dallas at Midnight and came into the bedroom, kissed me, kissed my belly, and as we talked the baby started kicking. It missed him too!

Thursday, June 21, 2007

From The Writer's Almanac

The Calf-Path
By Sam Walter Foss

One day through the primeval wood
A calf walked home as good calves should;
But made a trail all bent askew,
A crooked trail as all calves do.
Since then three hundred years have fled,
And I infer the calf is dead.
But still he left behind his trail,
And thereby hangs my moral tale.
The trail was taken up next day
By a lone dog that passed that way;
And then a wise bell—wether sheep
Pursued the trail o'er vale and steep,
And drew the flock behind him, too,
As good bell—wethers always do.
And from that day, o'er hill and glade,
Through those old woods a path was made.
And many men wound in and out,
And dodged and turned and bent about,
And uttered words of righteous wrath
Because 'twas such a crooked path;
But still they followed — do not laugh -
The first migrations of that calf,
And through this winding wood-way stalked
Because he wobbled when he walked.
This forest path became a lane
That bent and turned and turned again;
This crooked lane became a road,
Where many a poor horse with his load
Toiled on beneath the burning sun,
And traveled some three miles in one.
And thus a century and a half
They trod the footsteps of that calf.
The years passed on in swiftness fleet,
The road became a village street;
And this, before men were aware,
A city's crowded thoroughfare.
And soon the central street was this
Of a renowned metropolis;
And men two centuries and a half
Trod in the footsteps of that calf.
Each day a hundred thousand rout
Followed this zigzag calf about
And o'er his crooked journey went
The traffic of a continent.
A hundred thousand men were led
By one calf near three centuries dead.
They followed still his crooked way.
And lost one hundred years a day,
For thus such reverence is lent
To well-established precedent.
A moral lesson this might teach
Were I ordained and called to preach;
For men are prone to go it blind
Along the calf-paths of the mind,
And work away from sun to sun
To do what other men have done.
They follow in the beaten track,
And out and in, and forth and back,
And still their devious course pursue,
To keep the path that others do.
They keep the path a sacred groove,
Along which all their lives they move;
But how the wise old wood-gods laugh,
Who saw the first primeval calf.
Ah, many things this tale might teach —
But I am not ordained to preach.

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Baby Face

Baby weighs almost 3 lbs now! Today it looked right at me ... and yawned. It's bored; who wouldn't be? I e-mailed Matt the photos of our beautiful babe, as he's in Dallas and couldn't join in the ultrasound fun.

He called immediately and said, "My God! It's so amazing!" as I smiled on...
We're making a family (with me doing the heavy lifting, so to speak).
It's kicking as I type this ... go to sleep, little one.

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

The First Six Minutes

What is the Jane Austen quote...ah, I used to have it memorized, from Sense & Sensibility. Something like this: You can know someone 6 years and never really know them, yet know someone else 6 days and feel you've known them a lifetime. I waited a long time and found a person I'd known for 6 minutes and knew he was mine. And the best part was it took no convincing from me. I still remember the night at MacNiven's when Matt walked in; within 15 minutes we were staring at each other, but not in the "I think you're cute" way; in the "You are now in my life" way. No life drama can remove that now, ever.

Rain does this to me. Rain, reading, hand holding and Matt's hum whenever I touch him. Let's go to California, let's have more kids, let's stay in Indy, let's... OK. Anything. It took me only 6 minutes to get here.

The baby knows about us now; it's a quick study. Last night it was quiet; I shook my belly a bit saying, "Where are you tonight?" It kicked, it hit, it moved for us. Matt giggles, and I love that.

I interviewed my first daycare today, just in case. It was a bit depressing witnessing infants in a linoleum room, but I smiled a lot. It's so hard to plan the timing of things...maternity leave, back to work, Christmas in Sun Valley or California. We can't commit to anything yet, just Harper or Sam, which ever it may be.

Monday, June 18, 2007

Concerts and Baby Jammies


Matt and I went to see Wilco Friday, after telling our waiter at Elements to box our $120 dinner because we had a concert to catch. God, we're radical. When we arrived people were in our seats, and we spent the first 8 songs figuring out that they'd given us seats 12-13 H ... only one was in orchestra (downstairs), the other in royalty (upstairs). They finally seated us in the "trouble seats" which were one row better downstairs. Not bad. Matt took some photos with his phone and I said, "Make sure to zoom in on Jeff." He said, "Oh, ok, honey, I'll make sure to zoom in on ... Jeff!" He tolerates my starstruckness. Matt loved Wilco, thus passing my final test for him (just kidding!).
Saturday we ran around all day, bought patio furniture, flowers, and I bought Matt a firepit for Father's Day. It was 90 degrees so we didn't use any of it (but at least we're ahead of the game, said the Virgo). Jason and Beth came over for din-din and Matt let me drink wine with the adults. Whoohoo! Jason helped Matt assemble furniture whilst Beth planted my planters for me ... such good family.

Sunday, it was Father's Day/Finn's 4th b-day at my dad's; Matt got Father's Day cards all around, and a little outfit for the baby that says: I love Daddy. Awwww.
Last night the baby kicked and I laughed, patted my belly and said, "Do it again!" It did. Every time it kicked I shook it a little and said, "Do it again," and we played this game for 15 minutes. Smart kid already.

I'm getting way fat in the belly (still have skinny legs, there is a God) and I love it!

Monday, June 11, 2007

The Belmont Stakes

I called it! I knew the filly would pull through. Matt and I are both horse fans and have watched all three races. One always hopes for a Triple Crown, but falling short of that, this race was by far the most exciting because a chick horse won -- something a filly hadn't done at the Belmont in 120 years!

Matt grew up riding, and I rode two thoroughbreds, Star and Thunder, in my youth. My grandfather got into the "horse business" when he retired, and I started betting on his horses (with his money) circa 1983, when he raced them at Riverdowns a lot. He owned mostly gelding thoroughbreds and one filly, Galapiat's Sound (based on a Belgium TV series; why, I know not), and she was a winner. She never raced in the Derby, of course, but held her own against horses who'd been in the Derby.

My grandfather would give us each $50 for the day, and I'd lose every penny (I never chose based on statistics, always on the cutest names).

Perhaps my luck be changin'.

Saturday, June 09, 2007

Weekenders







Matt is cooking. I chopped. Aimee Mann is singing. We love having a patio again, a house, storage space!

We went to Zoobilation last night - 326 pats on my belly and plenty of these: You're glowing!
I wore a sexy maternity gown - they exist - which made Matt frisky ... love that. Be not afraid of public display, I always say. Between the two of us, we know half the population here.

I moved in with him a year ago this weekend, wow. It all still amazes me, and I still love to stare at him when he's doing pretty much anything. Like now. :) He's easy to love. Cute too.

Friday, June 08, 2007

Sarah White & the Pearls


I’ve discovered a great band, and I don’t say this just because my first love/college boyfriend plays bass in it. They reside in Charlottesville, Virginia, where Jeff went to school ... and will stay for the rest of his life. Sarah White grew up in West Virginia/Virginia, and sounds kind of like a hillbilly Liz Phair. The songs are great, though, with a lot of rhythm, twang and soul.

Jeff was never, ever meant to be a doctor, and I think it’s a good thing. He's a musician, owns his own recording studio. I bought him his first guitar and carried it on plane, train and automobile one of the 4 thousand times I visited him in C-ville. I remember when he first saw me standing at the station drudgingly holding it, he said, “You got me a guitar case?” Jeff was funny.

It wasn’t a Martin, but it was a Takamine and sounded pretty darn good. Still does. :)

http://sarah-white.com/

Thursday, June 07, 2007

Perception Is Half The Battle

Jean Piaget’s theory of cognitive development defines the acquiring of “schemata,” the scheme of how one perceives the world. It begins in childhood and covers the developmental stages of gathering information. There are four stages, and within the third stage, the Preoperational stage, exists a process called “theory of conservation,” or the “inability to conserve.” This is the stage where children lack perception of conservation of mass, volume, and number after an original “scheme” changes.

Example 1: Peek-a-boo. A child sees you, but when he covers his eyes his perception is that you are no longer there.

Example 2: A major plumbing blowout this morning, water leaking on three levels. I say, “I’ll call a plumber” and Matt says, “I turned off the water upstairs so the problem stopped.”

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

I conclude: “Honey, go be a lawyer; I’ll take care of this.”

He's a dear.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Always Plan Ahead

The new hot wines, says mon ami intime, Darryn, are from Yecla and Jumilla. Both Spanish. I may have sipped Spain dry of their Riojas when I was there, but today I'm on a mission to find these wines (relatively cheap, full-bodied) and have them shipped to the new pad.

Sure, I'm unable to drink them right now (*cough*cough*cough*cough*), but I'm investing in the future.

Found them: $50 to ship, damn it!

I told Matt that I want to put together 21 bottles of wine from 2007 and give them to our child on its 21st birthday.

Such a good mommy.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007

Catching Up: A Retrospective

It seems oxymoronic in scope, but I’ve been so assiduous of late that catching up with anyone, anything, seems like something buried deep in the past. I recall my friends...

Matt has been fly-fishing in Minnesota with his father for 4 days and I pick him up tonight. His absence left me the freedom to hang pictures where I saw fit, and to lift boxes I shouldn’t have been lifting.
My sister called last night and asked, “Is everything in its place? Does it look like you’ve lived there forever?” Duh.

My “service” nature has kept me up late every night for a week, making sure everything is perfect. I unpacked boxes of baby items we’ve received already, and as I stood in the baby’s room inventorying the display, surrealism enveloped me with the fact that we have toys in our house! We have baby spoons in the kitchen utensil drawer! We have a giant frog in the bathroom ready to scoop bath toys! I am slightly freaking out!

I juxtaposed childhood photos of Matt and me in the baby’s room and I almost cried. These hormones are ridiculous. Morphing ourselves together in my mind, I could almost see the details of the baby’s face. If this child doesn’t come out toehead blonde and deeply blue-eyed, I suppose I’ll have some explaining to do.

This morning is mine. I have a large cup of coffee and a stack of reading before me. I finally read the Kurt Vonnegut article in Nuvo (I’ve been moving it from perch to perch for weeks), written by an Indianapolis treasure himself, David Hoppe. I’ll spend a few minutes in “What to Expect When You’re Expecting,” and then it’s time to design a newsletter, write a grant, or redesign the website. Whatever it is I do.

Matt wants me to stay home and freelance once junior arrives. I’ve got the options coming in now, so I’m gearing up. But I’ve always worked, always taken care of myself (except that I’m one of the few lucky people I know who doesn’t have student loan debt, thank you grandfather). I can’t imagine staying home for three months, let alone…longer. Matt wants the child home with me. If it happens, I’ll need lots of projects to keep me occupied. I’m thinking about home schooling (until the child is faced with Algebra, then I’m out of there). I want to host a children’s book club. I want to practice letters, words and grammar all day long, like my mom did with me.

Matt and I watched the national spelling bee last week, and he said, “Jill, these kids are such geeks, yet I’d love it if my child were in something like this.” I said, “Honey, I kicked ass in spelling bees.”

I was a band geek and went to State competition too. God help us.

It’ll come to us in time, but tonight we’ll reunite; we’ll cook on the grill; we’ll talk to my belly and linger in love.